Both Moms With 온라인 카지노 게임
Prologue
“Is she your daughter?”
People asked this question everywhere—on trips where I walked arm in arm with 온라인 카지노 게임 mother-in-law, at markets where we held hands.
“Oh 온라인 카지노 게임! I thought she was your own mother all this time!”
Even the staff at the day care center, after 온라인 카지노 게임 mother-in-law had been attending for quite some time, made the same comment. People often mistook us for mother and daughter rather than mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Could it be possible because of 온라인 카지노 게임 personality, which makes it easy for me to form close bonds with others? Before getting married, even after meeting both sets of parents for the first time and moving to another location, I walked arm in arm with 온라인 카지노 게임 mother-in-law, chatting affectionately, without concerning if 온라인 카지노 게임 own parents were following behind us. That night, 온라인 카지노 게임 mom expressed her hurt feelings. She felt as though she had lost her daughter, even though it seemed like a good thing.
From then on, 온라인 카지노 게임 mother-in-law and I often held hands, linked arms on trips, and slept with her arm as 온라인 카지노 게임 pillow, forming a relationship that felt more like mother and daughter.
Both mothers were born in 1936, the year of the Rat. My mother-in-law visibly showed signs of dementia by 2013, but since my father-in-law was there to take care of her, it wasn't a major concern. In 2015, my mom, at the age of 80, was bitten by a tick and contracted tsutsugamushi disease, resulting in nearly a month of hospitalization. She eventually came to live with me, with the cognitive ability of a six-year-old due to the aftermath, which rapidly progressed to dementia.
Meanwhile, mother-in-law’s 온라인 카지노 게임 progressed relatively slowly. Until she came to live with me in 2020, my father-in-law, with the help of a care worker, took care of her. By the time I began taking full responsibility for her care, her 온라인 카지노 게임 had progressed to the point where she no longer recognized me as her daughter-in-law. She couldn’t handle her own bathroom needs. For nearly a decade, both families have lived in constant anxiety and tension due to the two mothers' 온라인 카지노 게임.
I had been ignorant, thinking 온라인 카지노 게임 was just a disease that made one lose memory or caused embarrassing situations. I didn't know what symptoms to expect or how to care for someone with 온라인 카지노 게임. Living with mom, I had to endure days where I felt like my frustration would make me explode. We spent unhappy days filled with conflict and anger. I believed that merely providing the basics of food, clothing, and shelter was enough. Unaware of educational methods that could improve cognitive abilities, I struggled through hard days with mom until I eventually had to admit her to a nursing home.
After placing mom in a nursing home, I brought mother in law, who was in the final stages of 온라인 카지노 게임, to our home, not because the family burdened me with the responsibility but because I felt it was a children's duty to care for their elderly parents.
Thinking about the times I treated 온라인 카지노 게임 mother harshly and unkindly, I felt a sense of guilt. While taking care of 온라인 카지노 게임 mother-in-law, I wanted to make amends for how I treated 온라인 카지노 게임 own mother. While living with mother-in-law, I sometimes regretted 온라인 카지노 게임 decision, wondering why I had taken on the responsibility. However, the thought of giving her a happy time with her children in her final memories made me feel fulfilled.
Misfortunes never come singly! Over 2 years and 3 months, we faced numerous challenges. Less than a month after bringing 온라인 카지노 게임 in-laws into our home, 온라인 카지노 게임 father-in-law was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. The stress of caring for them likely contributed to 온라인 카지노 게임 husband being diagnosed with stage 2 prostate cancer, necessitating surgery.
During that period, my in-laws spent some time in a nursing home. Unfortunately, my father-in-law contracted the coronavirus there and passed away. Left alone in the nursing home, we brought mother-in-law back home and cared for her for another nine months. With her severe 온라인 카지노 게임 and associated incontinence, we had no choice but to admit her to a nursing facility again. Even now, guilt occasionally washes over me, wondering if I should have kept her with us longer.
I spent many days crying alone while caring for both mothers. When feeling tired and worn out, I longed for someone to listen or offer comfort, but most people were too busy with their own lives to share any warmth with me. Books about 온라인 카지노 게임 often flooded with information on prevention, symptom studies, and case studies but rarely offered solace or empathy for caregivers.
It's hard to fully understand the challenges of living with a 온라인 카지노 게임 patient unless you've experienced it yourself. The difficulties and exhaustion are unimaginable. In such times, the interest and care from family and friends can provide a deep sense of love and strength, alleviating the feeling of isolation.
I wrote this not to focus on 온라인 카지노 게임 patients but to understand and comfort the primary caregivers' isolation and loneliness. Just as a family becomes happy when the mother is happiest, in a family with a 온라인 카지노 게임 patient, the primary caregiver's well-being is crucial. A healthy caregiver can provide better care. Knowing 온라인 카지노 게임 is an incurable disease, caregiving becomes increasingly difficult over time. Handling incontinence over an extended period is no easy task.
As the time spent with my 온라인 카지노 게임-stricken mothers grew, my thoughts on their final moments deepened. My dream was to hear them say, "I was happy thanks to you," near the end. That was my hope and ultimate goal: to care for my mothers at home until their final moments. However, faced with reality's weight, I had to place mom in a nursing home and mother-in-law in a nursing facility. The emotional weight and regret from these decisions are indescribable.
In our Confucian culture, sending parents to care facilities is often seen as unfilial. But placing parents in such facilities doesn't negate the sacrifices and hardships endured by the primary caregiver.
Caring for my 온라인 카지노 게임-stricken mothers was an isolating and painful experience, one I wouldn't want to revisit. Yet, I wrote this in hopes of providing some solace and healing to families caring for 온라인 카지노 게임 patients. To the primary caregivers enduring lonely and difficult times, sacrificing themselves for their loved ones, I want to say you've done well. You've given your best. Now, take some time to care for yourself. You deserve a warm embrace and kind words of encouragement.
