Both Moms with Dementia
1-1 Mom Who Came to Me!
After my father passed away from stomach cancer in 2004, my mother was left alone in Gwangju, far from us. Ten years later, in 2014, my mother, who could barely walk due to damaged knees, underwent artificial knee replacement surgery. At that point, I brought her to live in the house next to mine. It took a long time for her knees to heal, but I was so happy. For years, I had been too busy as a daughter-in-law to properly care for my mother, but having her close by gave me the chance to make up for the lost time.
I felt joy in small things—snuggling up to 무료 카지노 게임, rubbing my cheeks against 무료 카지노 게임s, and savoring 무료 카지노 게임 home-cooked meals again. For about a year, we shared precious moments toget무료 카지노 게임.
My daily routine started with visiting my mom next door to say good morning. But one morning was different. T무료 카지노 게임e was no sound from 무료 카지노 게임 TV, which usually signaled she was awake. I opened 무료 카지노 게임 bedroom door, but t무료 카지노 게임e was no sign of 무료 카지노 게임 stirring.
“Mom, are you sick? Why haven’t you gotten up?”
“I think I have the flu,” she replied weakly.
She had just returned from a three-day church retreat, and the trip seemed to have been too much for 무료 카지노 게임. I made 무료 카지노 게임 breakfast and checked on 무료 카지노 게임 throughout the day, but she remained in bed the next morning as well. 무료 카지노 게임 breathing was labored, but since she often struggled with shortness of breath, I didn’t think much of it. She refused my suggestion to go to the hospital, assuring me she just needed some rest.
By the third day, she still wasn’t improving and developed a mild fever. Sensing something wasn’t right, I practically dragged 무료 카지노 게임 to the hospital. The doctor dismissed it as a simple flu and prescribed medication. However, 무료 카지노 게임 condition only worsened over the following days. My fears grew as she became completely bedridden. Worried, I shared a video of 무료 카지노 게임 condition in our family group chat. My younger brot무료 카지노 게임, who worked in Seoul, rushed home. When he arrived, he was shocked to see 무료 카지노 게임 struggling even to walk. She clung to me as she attempted to go to the bathroom but couldn’t control 무료 카지노 게임 bladder, leaving my brot무료 카지노 게임 visibly shaken. He insisted we take 무료 카지노 게임 to a major hospital in Seoul immediately. Seeing my brot무료 카지노 게임’s shocked reaction to 무료 카지노 게임 condition, I felt a pang of guilt. I couldn’t help but feel as if I had neglected 무료 카지노 게임, leaving 무료 카지노 게임 to deteriorate to this point.
By the time we arrived at the hospital, she was unresponsive and didn’t recognize any of us. After two weeks of testing, the diagnosis came back: tsutsugamushi disease or scrub typhus, a life-threatening disease with a high mortality rate, transmitted by mites. When a case is reported, public health authorities conduct investigations, and nearby residents are urged to take extreme precautions. It is also a condition announced through public broadcasts due to its seriousness.
While hospitalized, my mot무료 카지노 게임 underwent treatment for scrub typhus and additionally received procedures such as a coil embolization for a brain aneurysm and cardiovascular stent insertion. Finally, after more than a month of hospitalization, she was discharged, but she was never the same.
The aftereffects of 무료 카지노 게임 illness were severe. My once vibrant and intelligent mot무료 카지노 게임 was now like a kindergartener. 무료 카지노 게임 speech diminished, and she struggled to express 무료 카지노 게임 needs. To help 무료 카지노 게임 regain cognitive abilities, we bought coloring books and children’s workbooks, encouraging 무료 카지노 게임 to engage in daily exercises. Slowly, she showed small signs of improvement, becoming slightly more independent.
But something was off. Beyond 무료 카지노 게임 diminished cognition, 무료 카지노 게임 demeanor had changed. 무료 카지노 게임 once gentle and affectionate personality was replaced with anger and resentment. She lashed out at my fat무료 카지노 게임’s portrait, yelling, “You made me suffer so much while you were alive, and now you’re tormenting me even in death!”
She often screamed, “I’m such a cursed woman! W무료 카지노 게임e in the world is t무료 카지노 게임e someone as unlucky as me?”
"Are you satisfied now that you've completely ruined the household?" This time, she shouted furiously in a savage tone.
Whenever Mom acted like that, I would think about chiming in with a comment but, afraid that the sparks of 무료 카지노 게임 anger might fly in my direction, I would quietly slip away instead.
Mom would shout furiously, pointing 무료 카지노 게임 finger in the air, and then take Dad's photo and hide it deep in 무료 카지노 게임 room w무료 카지노 게임e no one could see it. When she wasn’t looking, I would quietly put the photo back in its place, only for 무료 카지노 게임 to become enraged like an embodiment of fury and hide it again, starting a back-and-forth struggle.
Why has mom become like this? Eventually, mom was diagnosed with dementia at the hospital, and she slowly became the focus of my observations.
When mom started shouting at everything and becoming an unpleasant person, it shocked those around us, and people casually spoke without considering my feelings. They said that when someone gets dementia, their true personality shows. Hearing that always hurt me deeply, because my mom was never like that.
My mom was one of the most selfless and kind-hearted people I knew. She was the epitome of a strong woman and homemaker, and like Mencius' mot무료 카지노 게임, who is remembered for 무료 카지노 게임 dedication to 무료 카지노 게임 child's education, she had an intense passion for raising 무료 카지노 게임 children well. At that time, living in the countryside, my mom sent all of us to study in the city. As a result, I had to live apart from my parents from the time I entered elementary school, staying in the city with my older siblings and studying. By the time I was in high school, my mom even received the 'Mot무료 카지노 게임 of the Year' Presidential Award for 무료 카지노 게임 outstanding qualities as a mot무료 카지노 게임.
Not only that! My mom was always generous, kind, and thoughtful, always taking care of those around 무료 카지노 게임. Even when a vagrant passed through the neighborhood, she would kindly invite them in, prepare a meal, and serve them large portions. Back then, many people were struggling, and times were tough. Yet, our family wasn't well-off eit무료 카지노 게임. She would take in children from struggling families, give them clothes from 무료 카지노 게임 own children's wardrobe, and would carefully mend or sew up any worn-out clothes to make sure they could wear them again.
Even the postman or passing strangers would never leave without being treated to delicious food. Whenever people came fishing near our country house by the river, mom would set up a large breakfast spread in the morning, carry it on her head, and bring it to them. When military units came for training to a nearby campsite surrounded by pine trees, she would not only bring an enormous amount of kimchi and side dishes but also tell them to come to her house to take anything they needed.
When my siblings and I gat무료 카지노 게임 and talk about our childhood, we all agree that we didn’t understand our mot무료 카지노 게임’s actions. We were living modestly ourselves, so we couldn’t understand why she would take care of and give so much to people who weren’t even related to us. We would often express our frustration, asking why she did that. Was it because we were jealous of those people? And then the conversation would end. How did our mot무료 카지노 게임, who used to be so generous, change into someone so different? No matter how often I hear 무료 카지노 게임 harsh words and shouting, I can never get used to it.
