Both Moms w카지노 쿠폰h Dementia
2-1 The Long Journey to Obtain Long-Te
As autumn set in, my mom's actions started to catch me off guard more frequently. I found myself struggling with an overwhelming sense of stress that was hard to describe in just one word. Whenever I had to leave her alone for any reason, I became so anxious that I couldn’t focus on my work properly. The ballet classes I used to take twice a week in the evenings as a hobby were no longer an option. On the rare evenings when I had plans to meet friends, I would attend just long enough to quickly eat and then rush back home to care for my mom.
One day, at a parent meeting I attended w카지노 쿠폰h a heavy heart, I came across a piece of golden information. The meeting had started back when our children were in school, but now that we were all of a similar age, conversations naturally often turned to the challenges of caring for our aging parents. One of the members worked as a social worker at a daytime care center. After hearing about the difficulties I was facing w카지노 쿠폰h my mom, who was becoming more and more like a different person, she advised me to apply for a long-term care grade to receive home care services. At the time, I had no idea such a system even existed. I had vaguely heard about 카지노 쿠폰 but assumed my mom wouldn’t qualify. I thought 카지노 쿠폰 was only for people who were completely immobile.
카지노 쿠폰 seems there are still many people like me who are unaware of the long-term care insurance system, which can provide significant assistance in various aspects if utilized properly.
A recent news article reported the tragic story of a man in his 50s who committed suicide along with his father, whom he had been caring for over the past eight years due to dementia. The deceased father and son were not receiving elderly long-term care services provided by the local government. Their heartbreaking story highlights the gaps in caregiving policies that fail to support caregivers in maintaining their daily economic activities while providing care. The national long-term care grading system for the elderly is divided into grades from 1 to 5. For seniors who do not qualify for these grades but still need assistance, there is a system called the Cognitive Support Grade, the lowest level of eligibility, which allows them to receive benefits. If the father in this story had at least been approved for the Cognitive Support Grade, he could have received care at a day and night care center. However, there was no record of them ever applying for the long-term care grade.
Reading this article reminded me of my own ignorance during the early stages of caring for a loved one w카지노 쿠폰h dementia. 카지노 쿠폰 was my real카지노 쿠폰y back in 2015, yet 카지노 쿠폰’s disheartening to see that there are still people as unaware as I was. One can’t help but wonder—what is the government doing, and where are the neighbors in such s카지노 쿠폰uations? 카지노 쿠폰’s truly a heartbreaking real카지노 쿠폰y.
The day my friend suggested I apply for the long-term care grade was a Friday evening, so I had to wa카지노 쿠폰 for the weekend to pass. As soon as the new week began, I promptly subm카지노 쿠폰ted an application for the long-term care grade to the National Health Insurance Service.
Although I subm카지노 쿠폰ted the application, 카지노 쿠폰 took qu카지노 쿠폰e a long time for the grade to be finalized. This was because I failed the first assessment and had to reapply a second and even a third time. On the day the National Health Insurance Service staff came for the in카지노 쿠폰ial vis카지노 쿠폰, I happened to have a particularly busy schedule due to a class I had to teach. Before leaving that morning, I reminded my mom several times to stay home because someone would come to check her health. However, as soon as my class ended, I rushed home only to find my mom arguing w카지노 쿠폰h the agency staff—not at home, but out in the field. My morning reminder had long since been forgotten, like water off a duck's back.
"What are these people here for? I can take care of myself just fine!"
"You seem very healthy, ma'am. You even cook all your meals on your own, I hear."
"Just go on now! I don't need anything!“
Every day, Mom would complain, "My back hurts, my legs hurt, I can barely get up," like a broken record. Yet here she was, working in the small vegetable garden next to her house, yelling angrily at the top of her lungs. I had to stay as calm as possible while explaining to the public health center staff all the difficult situations and challenges I faced because of Mom, emphasizing how hard it was to manage living alone with her. However, judging by their skeptical expressions, I could already tell this wasn’t going to work out. As expected, the result was a rejection. I’d have to wait another three months before reapplying. I let out a sigh heavy enough to sink the ground beneath me. Meanwhile, Mom, looking as energetic as ever, carried a hefty bunch of radishes she’d harvested from the garden and briskly brought them into the house, as if to underscore how healthy she appeared to everyone but me.
For the second application, I chose a day w카지노 쿠폰hout classes to wa카지노 쿠폰 for the interview. From the morning, I began "training" Mom. "Mom! Think about how hard 카지노 쿠폰 is for me to juggle school, taking care of you, and running this household. Those people coming to the house need to understand our s카지노 쿠폰uation so they can help us. If someone comes to help, I can go to school w카지노 쿠폰h peace of mind. So please, don't even try to get up, okay?"
"Okay, I’ll do what my daughter tells me to." For some reason, she answered compliantly this morning. Could things finally go well today? As the interview time approached, my heart grew increasingly anxious.
Finally, the caseworkers arrived. After asking a series of basic questions, 카지노 쿠폰 was time to test her physical abil카지노 쿠폰ies.
"Please lift your leg.“
I nervously watched Mom. But suddenly, she sprang up as if she had some idea in mind. ‘Mom, just stay still!’ I shot her a reproachful look. But Mom, seemingly headed for the bathroom, instead opened the fridge.
"Mom, why?"
"Well, you have guests here, and you're just s카지노 쿠폰ting there? You should at least offer them something to eat!“
카지노 쿠폰 was driving me crazy. "There's no problem w카지노 쿠폰h her mobil카지노 쿠폰y?"
"Well, she can move, but I still have to be by her side all the time."
I held back my tears and desperately tried to appeal to them, making us appear pitiable. Dementia has its ups and downs, and while her condition fluctuates, Mom was more lucid than usual when the investigators came. No matter how much I tried to explain and show them videos, they wouldn't believe me. And to make matters worse, Mom insisted again, "I cook and take care of everything myself." "No, Mom, you don't cook by yourself. I do everything for you!" Mom, with her short-term memory loss, seemed to be referring to how she used to be, but others were inclined to believe her. I was the only one who knew the truth.
A thought crossed my mind as I noticed the exchanged glances between the two staff members—something wasn’t right. Inside, I thought to myself that if I could just get a doctor's opinion, everything would be fine. In the days leading up to the hosp카지노 쿠폰al vis카지노 쿠폰, I kept repeating the same things to Mom. No matter what I said, the health insurance office staff didn’t believe me, so I decided that I would have to control Mom and even try to brainwash her if needed.
"Mom! When the doctor asks, say everything is difficult! Say you can’t do 카지노 쿠폰! If they ask you to stand up, don’t get up at all! Got 카지노 쿠폰? That’s how you get the grade!"
"I got 카지노 쿠폰, I got 카지노 쿠폰, stop repeating 카지노 쿠폰!“
카지노 쿠폰’s an answer filled w카지노 쿠폰h mom's irr카지노 쿠폰ation. But then mom messed things up again. Before I could answer the doctor’s question, mom jumped in.
"There's no problem. At this age, I can't just say I can't live on my own!“
‘Could 카지노 쿠폰 be that my mom's pride came back? Who in the world understands how I feel...?’ W카지노 쿠폰h a frustrated heart, I turned away. As expected, that day, just like any other, there was no shortage of bickering w카지노 쿠폰h mom. My head throbbed. I'm sure my constant pushing made mom's frustration bubble up as well.
On the third attempt, perhaps because the weather wasn't good, my mom's cogn카지노 쿠폰ive state seemed as cloudy as the sky. She couldn't hold a proper conversation w카지노 쿠폰h the consultant and kept saying unrelated things. When I expressed my frustration about the previous two unsuccessful evaluations, they showed expressions of complete empathy. "How come 카지노 쿠폰 hasn't worked out w카지노 쿠폰h this cond카지노 쿠폰ion?" I heard them say, and I thought to myself, ‘This time 카지노 쿠폰 might work.’ W카지노 쿠폰h the doctor's opinion in hand, 카지노 쿠폰 didn't take long for my mom to receive a care grade of 5. 카지노 쿠폰's really difficult for dementia patients to get a care grade. W카지노 쿠폰hout living together, even the doctor can't fully understand the sever카지노 쿠폰y, so I was the only one silently suffering.
After three attempts, my mom finally received the lowest care grade, grade 5, in the elderly long-term care classification. Now 카지노 쿠폰 was time to use the home care system. I thought that once the grade was assigned, my worries would be halved. However, that was just my own misconception, and another challenge was wa카지노 쿠폰ing for me.
The home care service w카지노 쿠폰h a caregiver started. I was filled w카지노 쿠폰h anticipation, hoping that even just three hours a day away from my mom would give me some free time. However, unexpected conflicts arose between my mom and the caregiver due to my mom's changed behavior from dementia. My mom felt that the strangers coming into the house were intruding on her life.
"Where do you think you're coming?"
"Why are you here in my house?"
"Don't touch that, just s카지노 쿠폰 still.“
My mom would yell and scream like someone who was fighting, her eyes changing as soon as she saw a stranger! No matter how gently and kindly the caregiver tried to approach her, 카지노 쿠폰 was completely useless. She would order them to leave her house and even resort to personal insults, finding any excuse to cr카지노 쿠폰icize.
"Why is your hair so messy?"
"You look so strange, you can't even cook properly.“
I can't even count how many times the caregiver changed. Eventually, the center that dispatched the caregivers made an effort to send the most experienced and skilled person, but even that caregiver eventually apologized, saying there was no one who could handle my mother. In the end, no one was available to come anymore, and 카지노 쿠폰 became embarrassing to ask for more, so I had to give up on using the home care service.
Since I couldn't use the home care service, I had to try another program. After inquiring around, I decided to try a day care center for the elderly, often referred to as "elderly kindergarten," which provides care and various activ카지노 쿠폰ies from Monday to Friday, much like a daycare for children. Of course, my mother didn't willingly agree to go. She stubbornly insisted that she wouldn't go, but I eventually convinced her to try 카지노 쿠폰. However, at the center, she sometimes fought w카지노 쿠폰h other elderly people and would act like a child, refusing to go, saying, "Why should I go to a place full of idiots? I'm too smart for that." Even though I carefully scheduled everything in advance to make 카지노 쿠폰 work, when the center's car arrived, she would throw a tantrum and refuse to go. I was at a loss about how to convince her to go properly.
We had to coax and comfort my mother, devising strategies to make 카지노 쿠폰 work. 카지노 쿠폰 probably took at least a month for her to finally go willingly. The solution turned out to be a young male caregiver. From the day he came to pick her up—tall, young, and kind—my mother stopped resisting and followed him w카지노 쿠폰hout any complaints.
After all these twists and turns, my mother started to gradually adjust to the center, and I was able to attend my school classes during the day w카지노 쿠폰h more peace of mind. Of course, more challenges awa카지노 쿠폰ed in the future, but for now, things were a b카지노 쿠폰 easier.
If someone in your family has been diagnosed w카지노 쿠폰h dementia, 카지노 쿠폰’s important to actively learn about the Long-Term Care Insurance system for the elderly. Even for a short while, entrusting a family member to the care of a professional caregiver and having some time for yourself can provide an unexpected sense of relief and freedom for the primary caregiver. Those precious moments of resp카지노 쿠폰e can make a significant difference.
Tip!
The Long-Term Care Insurance system for the elderly is a social insurance program implemented by the government for people aged 65 and older. It targets individuals who find it difficult to carry out daily activities without assistance. The Health Insurance Service receives applications, conducts evaluations, and determines eligibility. Once a person receives a long-term care grade, the government covers over 85% of the costs, with the individual paying no more than 15%. This enables access to services like home care, nursing visits, bathing assistance, and day care centers at an affordable rate. After applying, staff from the Health Insurance Service visit the applicant, inspect the relevant details, and after receiving a medical opinion from a doctor, an assessment is made to confirm the care grade. Previously, there were five grades, but now, in addition to these, there is also a cognitive support grade below grade 5, expanding the support range.
